Bullying sucks. We see it in classrooms every single day. And if you’re like me—or like most of the teachers I work with—you’ve probably heard advice like: Catch the bully being good Exclude the bully so they learn their lesson Or my personal favorite gaslighting phrase of the moment: “Have you tried building a relationship with them?” Here’s where these recommendations fall flat: They aren’t based in how the brain actually works They won’t actually change the bully’s behavio
